This year will be the first year without my Dad. I got to thinking about that and I also realised it'll be the first year without him on my birthday and Christmas too.
My family want to go to his graveside. I suggested different.
I suggested just for the day on Sunday, we all get together and share our memories, rather than standing sombre at a headstone. My Dad's remains are there, underneath eight feet of dirt, but he is not there.
He's in our memories and I think to laugh about his antics will be fun. To hear my mum tell us stories of when Dad was younger, to learn more about him even though he's gone. I'm going to enjoy that a lot more than crying at a headstone.
Will also be chatting about my brother, as he is a father too. I love telling his son about his Dad and what he was like when I was growing up. I know my nephew feels closer to him.
Whatever you guys are doing, please cherish your moments. If you too have lost your fathers, then talk about him with your family. Remember the good times, remember everything. It keeps him alive in your heart and soul.
If you are a father, thank you. I know mine shaped my life and always supported whatever decision I made. He challenged me about the not so good stuff. He was there regardless of circumstance. Dads are not just providers. They are the real rock in our lives. Your child will know that one day.
Happy Fathers Day to all.